Question #1

Mar. 4th, 2010 10:08 am
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As I wait out the last couple hours before my Upper Endoscopy AND Colonoscopy this afternoon I figured I'd answer an "Ask Me Anything in March" question!

First question is from [ profile] heypyro and he asks: What are your rules to friendship?

It makes sense that since he's probably the best question asker with this LJ meme the first question would have to be as epic and thought provoking as this one.

At first I didn't think I had any rules to friendship but after giving it some thought I realized I do and that they are much simpler than I originally figured.

Rule #1: Humor

Ever since I was little, making friends was easy. I learned that if I stayed true to myself, stayed comfortable in my skin, and leaned on my humor and storytelling I could attract people to me. So the friends I have usually are also great story tellers and see humor in a lot of different things. That doesn't mean they have to be "on" all the time, or be larger than life. I have a few friends that are fairly quiet, and only give a random snippet of a soundbite. But when they do, MAKE SURE you are not in the middle of drinking anything because it's usually comedy gold.

Rule #2: Debbie Downers vs. Upbeat Wonders

I'm not saying you have to be a stick in the mud, but I'm a FIRM believer that what your put out there you get back. And if all you do is whine, complain, stab people in the back, start drama, one up everything, and make people uncomfortable I'm probably not going to call you a friend. Who wants to surround themselves with that toxic poison? There is WAY too much to be happy about in this world.
(This doesn't mean you can't come to me with problems, QUITE the opposite. I'm just talking about the people who ask you how you are only to cut you off to be negative about EVERYTHING)

Rule #3: Don't take yourself so seriously

Come with me to the Lonestar for a beer, and then maybe afterward we can catch a drag show, or be IN a drag show, or go to a club that we might have never gone to where the music is awesome but we might not fit in with the crowd. We can go hiking, or we can go Gem Sweater shopping and see Leslie Hall perform.

Rule #4: Out of sight out of mind, but not out of heart.

I have a full-time job from 9:30am-7:30pm mon-friday, plus I DJ a lot and I help out with every Bearracuda. I also have a wonderful boyfriend and a giant group of amazing friends. While I am trying to make 2010 my year of "prioritizing, pairing down, and getting out of my routine" it is a slow journey. My real friends know that whenever we see each other we can pick right back up where we left off. Whether that was yesterday, or 5 years ago, you are a friend for life and I love you.


It's March, so that means it's Ask Me Anything Month.

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