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dhbearguy asks: All the time I've spent with you, you have been upbeat, happy and fun loving. Have you since coming out experienced any bouts of being down and depressed?

Like any other person I have my ups and downs....but there is one quote that I live by and that it really describes how my brain works.
*caution* incoming cheesy quote:

"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."

I know I know....cheeeees-tastic. But it's really true.
I am a very optimistic person and I really think that focusing on the good, rather than the bad, can get anyone through anything.
I've gone through many heartshattering break ups that were completely out of my control, I've dealt with loss, I've dealt with heartache.
But in every situation there was atleast a moment of happiness.

When my mom went through breast cancer that was a depressing time because I couldn't be in CT with her. But I was in constant contact with her and my sister and made sure that my presence was felt. I focused on what I COULD do, as opposed to what I couldn't do, and it helped.

Instead of focusing on all the negative aspects of something or someone, try and recall all the positive aspects and learn from them. Take the good, use that knowledge of what makes you happy and try to find it in other places or other people.

Yes, I get depressed. And it's hard when I am alone, but when I'm around other people that make me happy, and when I focus on that, I can usually change my mood.

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I just reread the question, and the phrase "since coming out" makes me think this question was more relationship oriented than just general depression.

When it comes to men I am very sensitive. On the outside I am both confident yet shy. I am pretty reserved even though I don't project that to others.
I have a very clear idea what makes me happy, and what brings me joy both emotionally and phyically. I think it has to do with learning from previous failed relationships. I learned what made me happy, and what I just won't stand around me. I learned to appreciate the little things that you can't get from just anybody. Although, I have a hard time expressing my appreciation to others, but that is a whole other problem all together.
The things that get me depressed, and stick with me, are the aspects outside of my control.
Having to move.
Boyfriend is addicted to drugs/is a dealer.
Boyfriend is mentally and emotionally unstable and without the means to stabalize (ie. insurance and medication).

things like that. Those are harder to get over.

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